Fairness, Anxiety and Disability update

Following my realisation that a discussion of privilege was warranted to change Jeremy’s (my 8 year old son) perspective on fairness, I decided to create a questionnaire to expose how people are treated differently based on appearance. The questionnaire and discussions that followed are below:

Questionnaire:

Illustration

A group of children with different appearances are pictured standing together smiling. A boy sits in a wheelchair toward the front of the group. A girl in a pink shirt stands next to him.

A group of children with different appearances are pictured standing together smiling. A boy sits in a wheelchair toward the front of the group. A girl in a pink shirt stands next to him.

Image obtained from http://esl-multicultural-stuff-page4.blogspot.com.au/p/diversity.html

Question 1.

How comfortable would you be saying “hello” to the girl with the soccer ball if she said hello to you (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How comfortable would you be saying “hello” to the girl wearing the head scarf if she said hello to you (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How comfortable would you be saying “hello” to the boy wearing the blue shirt (who is standing) if he said hello to you (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How comfortable would you be saying “hello” to the girl wearing the yellow shirt if she said hello to you (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How comfortable would you be saying “hello” to the boy wearing the red shirt if he said hello to you (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How comfortable would you be saying “hello” to the boy in the wheelchair if he said hello to you (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How comfortable would you be saying “hello” to the girl wearing the pink shirt if she said hello to you (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

Question 2.

How much would you like to play with the girl with the soccer ball (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How much would you like to play with the girl wearing the head scarf (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How much would you like to play with the boy wearing the blue shirt (who is standing) (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How much would you like to play with the girl wearing the yellow shirt (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How much would you like to play with the boy wearing the red shirt (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How much would you like to play with the boy in the wheelchair (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How much would you like to play with the girl wearing the pink shirt (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

Question 3.

If you needed help with your school work how likely would you be to ask the girl with the soccer ball (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

If you needed help with your school work how likely would you be to ask the girl wearing the head scarf (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

If you needed help with your school work how likely would you be to ask the boy wearing the blue shirt (who is standing) (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

If you needed help with your school work how likely would you be to ask the girl wearing the yellow shirt (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

If you needed help with your school work how likely would you be to ask the boy wearing the red shirt (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

If you needed help with your school work how likely would you be to ask the boy in the wheelchair (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

If you needed help with your school work how likely would you be to ask the girl wearing the pink shirt (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

Question 4.

How likely would you be to share your food with the girl with the soccer ball (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How likely would you be to share your food with the girl wearing the head scarf (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How likely would you be to share your food with the boy wearing the blue shirt (who is standing) (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How likely would you be to share your food with the girl wearing the yellow shirt (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How likely would you be to share your food with the boy wearing the red shirt (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How likely would you be to share your food with the boy in the wheelchair (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

How likely would you be to share your food with the girl wearing the pink shirt (out of 10)?

1              2              3              4              5              6              7              8              9              10

Question 5.

Which child or children do you think would most likely become a doctor when they grow up?

 

Which child or children do you think would most likely become nurse when they grow up?

 

Which child or children do you think would most likely become a teacher when they grow up?

 

Which child or children do you think would most likely become an athlete when they grow up?

 

Which child or children do you think would most likely have children when they grow up?

 

Which child or children do you think would most likely become prime minister when they grow up?

 

Which child or children do you think would most likely become a scientist when they grow up?

 

Which child or children do you think would most likely become an astronaut when they grow up?

Question 6.

Who gets treated the best? More hellos, more play, more food etc.

 

Who gets treated the worst? Less hellos, less play, less food etc.

 

The person that gets treated the best is the most privileged. What things about them made you decide to treat them better?

Boy or girl?                                                          Yes/no

Clothes they wore?                                            Yes/no

If they could do things like you?                      Yes/no

If they looked like you?                                     Yes/no

Other: 

Question 6.

Do you think they way you treat people based on how they look and what you think they can be when they grow up affects what they think they can do and therefore what they end up doing? Way too confusing, question failed.

How do you think they feel about that? Do you think that is fair?

What could you do to change that?

Discussions of questionnaire:

I explained the questions and gave no sign as to the preferred answers. I just noted their answers as they went along. Some answers were surprising in that they thought the boy at the back of the image had a disability but they couldn’t explain what it was (perhaps because his facial features seemed less symmetrical and his head was turned to the side). Once the boys started to realise that they weren’t treating people the same (based on some of the later questions) they started to get upset and wanted to change some answers.

Jeremy was more comfortable in general with saying hello to everyone, asking for help with school work and playing with everyone in general. For Jeremy, there wasn’t a significant difference in the ratings between the children (even though they varied I couldn’t detect a pattern) but the girl in the pink shirt and the girl in the head scarf appeared to rate lower in general for both Jeremy and Damian. Damian even said that he didn’t think the women with the head scarf would have any of the jobs and Jeremy said “Yeah, me too”. Damian was more likely to feel comfortable saying hello to and playing with boys. Jeremy and Damian chose boys as most likely to have the higher paying occupations of scientist, astronaut and prime minister.

I asked Damian why he chose boys for specific occupations and he said the jobs were “a better fit” for them but he couldn’t explain further. I asked if he thought boys were smarter than girls and he said “No”. I said “Do you think women could do those jobs?” and he said “Yes”. I told Damian and Jeremy that they are among the very privileged in this world. They are treated better because they are boys, have white skin and are well-off financially. They are less privileged than some white boys because they have a disability (autism) but are still treated very well. I explained that even though we don’t mean to we tend to treat some people better based on sex, skin colour (Jeremy thought it was wrong to say ‘black people’ but I mentioned that many black people are proud of being referred to as ‘black people’), how much money they earn and if they are disabled or not. The questionnaire showed that to be true for them too even though they thought it was important in general to treat everyone equally.

In response to the boys being very privileged Damian said “People in America are richer than us!”. This reminded me of a youtube video that I had watched with the boys before, which pointed out the wealth disparity in America and we watched it again. I showed Damian that a lot of people are poor in America. Jeremy began to realise and say that it was probably the people who were treated worse who were poorest and he specifically mentioned women. He then extrapolated to black people and disabled people (obviously there are many other disadvantaged groups and I will eventually add them all in, in everyday discussions recently we watched this video). I asked if we should blame people for being poor and they both adamantly agreed that we shouldn’t and it was because we treated them worse (they preferred the cup half empty approach then cup half full i.e. treat them worse and not treat us better). I didn’t really know how to discuss what we should do to change this besides being aware and trying to be nicer (pretty pathetic really, but at least a start).

The creation of the questionnaire was inspired by privilege checklists that I came across on the internet when searching for ways to explain privilege to my boys. Another day I will translate one or two of these lists for the boys to build on what they have learnt today.

 

 

 

 

Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s